It All Adds Up

I'm working on decluttering my sugar intake.  I will begin my journey by starting my each day with a smoothie.  I would normally stock up on a week's worth of food for one recipe, not knowing if I like it.  And then, if I don't, the food is wasted.  I have a different mindset knowing I'll be at the store each day; everything can change tomorrow.

Isn't that an interesting thought; everything can change tomorrow.  Like any major change, the first steps are little and oh-so subtle.  You often can't see any change, things seem like they will never change, but they are.  They're changing because you're trying.  Don't stop trying.  The little things add up.  Give yourself time.  Make it through today.  Make it through tonight.  Everything is changing.  It's the only constant.

I will try many recipes in my journey.  I will keep trying. I will find something that works. I may even find multiple things that work.  The little changes will add up.  I will see the change.  I will feel the change.

Clutter Comes in All Forms

This minimalist gig is far bigger than I imagined when I started.  I thought I'd get rid of some stuff in the house, pair down my wardrobe, have some clean surfaces, and be good.  I learned relatively quickly that it is an ongoing process to keep the clutter out and the surfaces clear.  I then began to learn that busyness was a form of clutter and started to simplify my schedule.  I enjoy a slower pace of life.  It's probably the hardest thing for people to understand because society has taught us to find worth and importance by how much we have to do.  We are not allowed to simply say no to something.  Rather we are required to list off every stinkin thing on our to-do list to justify that we are indeed too busy to say yes to a request.  The poor folk who are incapable of saying no, even when their to do list is longer than the day has hours, are totally overwhelmed.  I get to save my yeses for things I really want to do and will bring me joy. I may struggle at times with societal guilt, but I'm working on that.

I'm also finding that I'm minimizing my words.  It's not something I've read about or even a goal I've set for myself. I think it's a byproduct of simplifying life in general.  I'm realizing that people don't need the whole story in order to understand my simple answer to a question.  If they want more info they will ask.  I rather sound like an imbecile at times as I sensor myself and that's okay.  I'm living in the moment and long answers usually involve the past.  Simple is better.

Clutter also involves all the negative self-talk and worry that rattles around in my thoughts.  This is my area of focus during my recovery time from surgery.  I don't feel well and that leads to a lot of negative thinking.  I have been working on accepting compliments, combatting negative self-talk with affirmation statements, and putting worry to rest by staying in the now and accepting what I have control over.   It's challenging, but like the rest of my minimalist progress, it's worth it.

Home is a Sanctuary

I enjoyed reading this poignant article entitled "How to create a luxurious life everyday life."  The article reinforced many of my current life choices, including my recent investment in stylish bras and panties.

1. Cook at Home - check.  I'm even branching out by making more meals that don't involve the crock pot to be more balanced, adding more spices, and trying new recipes.  The family is loving it.

2. Indulge in Cafe Time - good idea.  I've really wanted to join the coloring craze but when I'm home I find myself distracted by other things.  I think the cafe would be a great place to color and let my mind wonder.

3. Wear Luxurious Lingerie Everyday - check.  It may not be very swanky, but for my big girl body, I'm pleased I made the fore-mentioned investment in stylish undergarments.  I may have to look into something even more luxurious in the future.

4. Let Go of Busy - Done!

5. Cultivate a Capsule Wardrobe for Each Season - Couldn't agree more! I love my capsule wardrobe.  I also appreciate the word choice, "cultivate."  It takes some effort to find the perfect pieces but I believe it's totally worth it and so am I.  My wardrobe is an extension of love.

6.  Follow Your Own Schedule,  was an immediate - Done!  Then I read the description that included, "...listen to what is nudging you, calling your name and that is where you will find the unexpected beauty."  I'm not sure I have been doing that so I need to work on listening to what is calling me and finding unexpected beauty.

7. Discover a Personal Scent. - Alright! Time to revisit my avoidance of perfume.  Seriously, I stopped wearing it when my kids were infants because it was too much.  Now that they are young adults, I really should try again.  I like the thought of adding that touch.

8. Subscribe to Daily/Weekly/Monthly Periodicals.  This is far more challenging with my minimalist goals. The suggestion encourages regular learning and expansion of one's interests.  I may have to look into electronic versions.  I know Amazon Kindle offers numerous titles for free in the New Year as well as different times throughout the year.  Detective mode activated.  I don't want to spend money or clutter my home with subscriptions.

9. Save Time and Don't Wash Your Hair Everyday - True Dat!  My hair and scalp is much healthier when I give it regular rest between shampoos.

10. Invest in Quality Skin Care - Can I get an Amen!  I made this very investment earlier this year and it has been a true blessing.  I have subtracted acne from my face and I feel great.  I'm also subtracting some lines, dark circles, and unevenness in my complexion.  Forties are feeling fabulous!

11. Design a Workout Regimen to Look Forward To - Hit me where it hurts.  My current physical health issues make this out of the question for at least three months.  That being said, it will be the first thing I visit in the spring.

12. Find Time to Treasure Hunt - I do enjoy going on treasure hunts with and for friends.  I think if I apply it to myself, it will entail hunting for doable home improvements and that perfect thing for my dream home.

13. Be Sincere, Yet Kind - This is an ongoing process.  I do my best to be, in my word, authentic.  It is crucial to my personal values.  So glad to see it is on the list for a luxurious lifestyle.

14. Shop at Local Vendors and Boutiques - Yup, Yup.  I love my farmers' market and do my best to shop local.  A fabulous little clothing boutique just opened up very close to my home.  I was extra pleased that the shop owner has plus size options.  I purchased a top to wear for my Christmas events.

15.  Eat Real Food - As a Celiac, I eat very few processed foods.  They are quite expensive to purchase gluten free.  I will continue to explore seasonal food options to reach the maximum fresh flavor from the foods I prepare at home.

16. Elevate the Conversation - No gossiping or whining - Check.  I have started elevating the conversation at the dinner table to go beyond, "How was your day?"  Now I am hitting the hard topics  of sex, religion, and politics.  Yah, I went there!

17. Create an Evening Routine to Look Forward To - um, okay.  That requires a level of self care at the end of the day that is very challenging for me.  15 minutes?  I can, surely, do that.  Now to figure out what to do.

18. Schedule Regular Spa Appointments for Beauty and Health Maintenance - If my monthly haircut to maintain my pixie cut counts, I'm in.  I choose to spend my beauty budget on my wonderful skin care products.  There's an occasional trip to get a pedicure before a wedding or something.  I'm good with that.

19. Stock a Bar Cart for Spur-of-the-Moment Entertaining - My friends are not big drinkers, or drinkers at all really.  I do feel that keeping my house on the tidy side frees me up to make entertaining offers very spur of the moment so I will continue with that challenge and make it a point to open my home at least once a week to guests.

20. Fill Your Home With Inspired Music - That goes without saying in our home.  We are big music fans and love sharing our new finds.  Good to go!

Because many of the suggestions are done in the home, I found myself asking, "Is my home a sanctuary?"  I agree that our everyday lives should be something to enjoy and celebrate.  When subtracting or adding items in the New Year I can ask, "Does this add to my home feeling/being like a sanctuary?"

Family Focus

During my presentation last week, I shared my personal motivation question when decluttering: Do I want my kids to deal with this if I die tomorrow?  It's been an important question during this first year of subtraction.  I believe this question will change in 2016.  My next few posts will be exploring what that question may be.  If you know your question, I would love to hear it.

This weekend I braved the mall with my mom, it was her wish.  I have already completed my Christmas shopping. The gifts I purchased this year were few in number, well thought out, and very meaningful.  I am pleased I had the time to find the right gifts, at the right price.  It's amazing what minimalism can do to help keep the family in focus.

There were a couple necessity items, bras & socks, on my list that were very manageable.  I was able to purchase them at one store.  I enjoyed the time I had with my mom at the mall because we were not urgently searching for just the right gift.  We drifted in and out of stores, chatting away.  I wasn't worried about making my next commitment or any chores that needed to be done.

As I reflect on our mall experience and my gift choices this year, I believe a compelling question for me in the coming year as I work to limit the items coming into my home, fill my calendar, and choose to fill my time, will need to keep a my family as my main focus.

Question #1 - Will this choice keep my family as my focus?

Monday Decluttering Reset

The weekends are pleasantly full in our house.  Our kids are in and out with activities, my husband and I try to get out of the house for an activity, and the dogs love all the attention they get.  Inevitably, Monday is a reset with the amount of clean up there is to do.  I make the choice to save all cleaning until the work week because I consider housekeeping my job as I do not work outside the home.  The weekend if for the family.

The routine is different from my focused 15 minutes.  Monday is devoted to the decluttering reset so I can slowly progress through everything.  I start with a long shower with my favorite tunes.  I pamper myself with lotions and potions.  The house gets the same type of treatment.   It's very cathartic.

Here are the before and after pictures.

My husband asks me daily, "How did your day go?"  I usually give a neutral response of, "Ok."  The surprising thing is when I start to tell him what I've accomplished in a day, he always calls me on my neutral response.  He knows I'm a rockstar, even if I'm not sure.  Last month, I challenged myself to no whining.  This month I will choose to be positive and accept that I am enough.  Life is good.